capybara cardsThis or that questions for couples: 36 fast picks
This or that is the quickest couples game there is: two options, one pick, no explaining. Here are fresh pairs for every mood, and how to play so it stays fast and funny.
This or that for couples is the fastest game there is: read two options, both answer at the same time, no explaining until the next one. Matching picks feel great and mismatches start the conversation. Here are 36 fast picks for date night, food, travel and more.
This or that questions for couples are the speed round of getting to know each other. Two options, one pick, half a second to answer. There's no time to give the "right" answer, so you get the real one, and the real one is usually funnier.
The pairs below are written to be specific. Not "beach or mountains," but the small, exact choices that actually say something about the two of you. Pick a section, read fast, and keep a tally of how often you agree.
How to play this or that fast
- No pauses. If someone hesitates for more than two seconds, they lose the point.
- No "both." Ever. That's the only rule that really matters.
- Read it, don't explain it. Explanations wait until the end of the round.
- Answer together. Count 3-2-1 and both say your pick at the same time. Matches score a point for the team.
- Swap readers every six. That's why each section below has exactly six.
Date night this or that questions for couples
- Candlelit dinner at home or a loud taco place downtown?
- Matching pajamas or matching sneakers?
- Arcade date or bowling date?
- Dessert first or dessert to go?
- Dress up for no reason or sweatpants with a fancy meal?
- A sunset drive with no destination or a late movie in an empty theater?
There are plenty more date night picks in the app when this round ends. 171 more cards are in the Would You Rather deck.
Food this or that
The section that starts the most arguments, every single time.
- Sharing one huge pizza or ordering two small ones?
- Spicy ramen on the couch or sushi at the counter?
- Midnight cereal or midnight toast?
- Cooking together or one cooks, one does the dishes?
- Drive thru fries in the car or eaten at home on a plate?
- Grocery shopping with a list or grocery shopping hungry?
More food fights are waiting in the app, one swipe at a time. 171 more cards are in the Would You Rather deck.
This or that about us
These are about your relationship and the habits you already have. Expect laughing, and possibly a fact check.
- Splitting the last bite or fighting for it?
- Big anniversary trip or tiny monthly date?
- Your playlist on road trips or mine?
- Couple Halloween costume or two costumes that secretly match?
- Inside joke or secret nickname?
- Our first photo together or our best photo together?
The Couple Questions deck in the app has many more about the two of you. 171 more cards are in the Would You Rather deck.
Cozy vs chaotic
Every couple has a cozy one and a chaotic one. This round finds out who is who.
- Blanket burrito or starfish sleeper?
- Reading in the bath or karaoke in the shower?
- Rainy day puzzle or a spontaneous road trip in the rain?
- Pajamas by 7 PM or out until 2 AM?
- Lighting a candle or lighting a sparkler?
- Slow Sunday breakfast or a midnight snack raid?
If you lean chaotic, Hot Takes in the app is your next stop.
Travel this or that questions
Perfect for the planning stage of a trip, or the airport gate when you're bored.
- Hostel adventure or fancy hotel bathrobe?
- Train with a view or a plane that's twice as fast?
- Window seat sleeper or aisle seat snack runner?
- Packing a week early or packing the morning of?
- Street food tour or one fancy dinner abroad?
- Souvenir magnet or a photo in a silly hat?
More travel picks are in the app, along with longer would you rathers for real trip planning. 171 more cards are in the Would You Rather deck.
Spicy but clean this or that
A little flirty, nothing you couldn't say at a family dinner. Probably.
- Forehead kiss or a cheek kiss out of nowhere?
- Slow dance in the kitchen or a flirty text during a meeting?
- My cologne or perfume on you or your hoodie on me?
- A love note in your lunch or a voice note at lunchtime?
- Matching rings or matching tattoos the size of a coin?
- Long hug at the door or a kiss in the elevator?
The flirtier picks live in the app if you want round two.
Ways to make it more interesting
Play for points. Before each pick, the reader guesses what the other will say. Right guess, one point. It turns a list into a competition.
Do a blind round. Both write your answers for a full section on paper, then compare at the end. The matches are cute. The mismatches are where the stories are.
Film it. This or that is one of the most popular couple formats on TikTok for a reason. Put the phone on the counter, read fast and react to each other's picks.
Let the loser choose the next section. It keeps the game going and gives whoever is behind a home advantage.
Write your own this or that pairs
The best pairs come from your actual life, so it's worth writing a few of your own. A good pair has three things.
Both options are real. If one side is obviously better, nobody has to think, and nobody gets teased for their pick. Two things you'd both happily do make a far better pair.
It's specific. "Movies or TV" is fine. "Rewatching our comfort show or starting something new at midnight" is better, because it paints a picture of an actual night.
It's about you two. Use your favorite café, your dog's name, the city you keep saying you'll visit. Pairs that only make sense to the two of you get the biggest reactions.
Try writing three each before your next round and mixing them in with the ones above. You'll be surprised how quickly you learn what the other one thinks is a hard choice.
Why this or that works for couples
Most couple conversations get stuck on the same few topics: work, plans, what to eat. This or that breaks that loop because it moves so quickly. In ten minutes you cover dates, food, travel and habits, and somewhere in there is a pick that surprises you.
It also asks almost nothing of you. No thinking, no right answers, no deep talks. That makes it a great warm up for a longer game night or the easiest thing to do on a call when you're both tired.
When you run out
You'll get through a list like this quickly. That's the point. When you want more, a card deck keeps it going with fresh pairs and harder choices, so nobody has to invent them on the spot.
Keep it fast, keep score if you like, and don't take the food section too seriously.
Quick answers
How do you play this or that as a couple?
One person reads two options and the other picks one instantly, no pausing and no 'both.' Swap readers every few questions. For a twist, both answer at the same time on a 3-2-1 count and see how often you match.
What's the difference between this or that and would you rather?
This or that is about preferences and is answered in a split second. Would you rather usually puts you in a made up situation with a tough choice, so it takes longer and leads to more debate.
Is this or that good for TikTok or Instagram?
Yes. It's one of the most popular couple video formats because answers are quick and the reactions are instant. Film both of you answering at the same time and keep the cuts fast.
How many this or that questions should we do?
Twenty to thirty pairs fill about ten minutes when you play fast. Use it as a warm up before a longer game, or as a quick round in the car or before bed.