capybara cardsChristmas questions to ask your partner (fun and festive)
Christmas talk doesn't need to be deep. It needs cocoa, a bad sweater and one good question. Here are festive ones for your partner, a this or that round and a Christmas would you rather for adults.
Good Christmas questions to ask your partner are quick and festive: the worst gift they ever got, the ornament they would save first, cookies or pie. Ask them while decorating or wrapping, answer them yourself too, and keep it light. Start with the 17 below; the full decks are in the capybara cards app.
Christmas questions to ask your partner should feel like the season: warm, a little silly and easy to answer with a mouth full of cookie. Nobody wants a serious life review while the tree lights are blinking. What works is a question that drags out one specific memory, like the gift they pretended to love or the year the oven caught fire.
The best time to ask is when your hands are busy. Untangling lights, wrapping gifts, waiting for something to bake, stuck in holiday traffic on the way to family. One question, both of you answer, and let the story run as long as it wants.
Below you'll find a festive round for your partner, a few just for your boyfriend or girlfriend, then a Christmas this or that and a Christmas would you rather for adults to finish the night.
Christmas questions to ask your partner
Start here. These work whether it's your first Christmas together or your tenth. If it's your first, you'll learn a whole family's worth of strange traditions in four questions. If it's your tenth, you'll find out which of their old stories you've somehow never heard.
- What's the worst Christmas gift you ever got, and did you pretend to like it?
- If our tree could only have one ornament, which one are you hanging?
- Which holiday song makes you change the station the second it starts?
- What did your family always eat on Christmas morning that nobody else does?
More of these are in the Couple Questions deck in the app. 267 more cards are in the Couple Questions deck.
Christmas questions to ask your boyfriend
A few aimed at him, mostly about traditions, snacks and his gift wrapping skills (or lack of them).
- How many minutes does it take you to wrap one gift, and how much tape is involved?
- Which Christmas cookie would you defend in a fight?
- Which relative always brings the weirdest side dish, and do you eat it?
For more holiday ideas for him, these questions to ask your boyfriend work all year round.
More of these are in the Couple Questions deck in the app. 267 more cards are in the Couple Questions deck.
Christmas questions to ask your girlfriend
These lean toward the end of the year: favorite moments, little wins and what you two should try next December. They're good for the quiet stretch after dinner, when everyone else is asleep on the couch and the two of you are on dish duty.
- Which moment from this year with me would you put on a Christmas card?
- If you could add one new tradition for us this year, what is it?
- What's on your secret wish list that you'd never put on the real one?
December is also the natural time to look ahead, so a couple of "next year" questions slide in nicely after the presents are open.
More of these are in the New Year, New Us deck in the app. 148 more cards are in the New Year, New Us deck.
Christmas this or that questions for adults
Fast round. No explanations allowed until you've both answered, then you can argue.
- Real tree or fake tree that never drops a single needle?
- Tinsel everywhere or one tasteful garland and done?
- Open one gift on Christmas Eve or wait until morning like a saint?
- Hot cocoa with marshmallows or eggnog with way too much nutmeg?
Christmas this or that questions funny
Want the funny version? Pick the dumbest pairings you can think of: candy cane or gingerbread roof shingle, reindeer or snowman as a roommate. The sillier the choice, the longer the argument.
More of these are in the Would You Rather deck in the app. 171 more cards are in the Would You Rather deck.
Christmas would you rather for adults
The final round. Each one is a small festive disaster, and you have to pick your poison.
- Would you rather eat only leftovers until New Year's or never eat leftovers again?
- Would you rather wrap every gift in the family or cook the whole Christmas dinner?
- Would you rather have snow every single day in December or none at all?
Christmas would you rather for adults funny
Turn it up by making both options ridiculous: spend Christmas inside a snow globe, or as the elf who has to test every toy. Whoever laughs first has to pick.
More of these are in the Would You Rather deck in the app. 171 more cards are in the Would You Rather deck.
How to turn it into a holiday tradition
The easy version is one question a night through December, like an advent calendar you don't have to buy. Keep a note on your phone with the funniest answers, then read the whole list back on New Year's Eve. You'll be surprised how much you forget in a month, and how good it feels to hear it again.
Two small rules keep it fun. First, no wrong answers on traditions: their family putting pickles on the tree is not up for debate tonight. Second, whoever loses a this or that round has to put on the next Christmas song, no skipping.
If you're spending the holidays apart, it works just as well over FaceTime. One of you reads, both of you answer, and it beats asking "so what did you do today" for the fourth night in a row.
This page is only a taste
You just read 17 cards. The full decks live in the app, and they're a lot bigger:
- Couple Questions has 267 cards for cozy nights, car rides and every December evening in between.
- Would You Rather has 171 cards of impossible choices for the dinner table.
- New Year, New Us has 148 cards for the week between Christmas and the countdown.
Open the app, pick a deck, tap once for the next card and pass the phone. Nobody has to remember a list, nobody sees what's coming, and you can play by the tree, in the car or on a call from two different cities. When this page runs out, the app is where the rest of the season's questions are waiting.
Quick answers
What are good Christmas questions to ask your partner?
The best ones are quick and specific: their worst gift ever, the ornament they would rescue first, the holiday food they secretly skip. Small festive details start bigger stories.
What are fun Christmas questions for adults?
Christmas this or that and Christmas would you rather questions work well for adults because they are fast, a little silly and easy to argue about over dinner or on a long drive home.
When should we ask Christmas questions?
While decorating, wrapping gifts, waiting for the oven or driving to family. Anywhere you have ten slow minutes together and something festive in the background.
Where can I find more Christmas questions to ask?
This page is a short sample. The capybara cards app has the full Couple Questions, Would You Rather and New Year, New Us decks, one tap per card, so the next question is always ready.