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This or that questions: funny, flirty and for adults

Two options, no maybes, answer before you overthink it. Here is a small taste of this or that questions for friends, couples and grown ups, sorted by mood.

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This or that questions are quick two option picks you answer in a second, like slide or stairs, autotune or squeaky shoes. The best ones are specific and slightly unfair, so people have to defend their choice. Here are 17 for adults, friends and couples; the full decks are in the capybara cards app.

capybara cards team · 2026-10-23 · 5 min read

This or that questions are the easiest game there is. Two options, one answer, no "it depends." You don't need a board, a timer or a reason. You just need someone who has opinions and a few minutes to kill.

The trick is in the options. "Coffee or tea" is a survey. "A house with a slide instead of stairs, or a ball pit instead of a couch" is a debate. Good this or that questions are specific enough to picture and unfair enough that both answers hurt a little. That's where the arguing, and the laughing, comes from.

Below is a small, hand picked taste: quick warm ups, funny ones, picks for adults, a couples round and a flirty (clean) set. Read one out, make everyone answer at once, and ask "why?" before moving on.

This or that questions

Start here. These are fast, harmless and good for any group, from a first hangout to a family car ride.

• Window seat next to a crying baby, or aisle seat next to a stranger who wants to chat the whole flight?
• Breakfast for dinner every night, or dinner for breakfast every morning?
• A house with a slide instead of stairs, or a house with a ball pit instead of a couch?
• Socks with sandals for a whole week, or rubber clogs to your best friend's wedding?

More of these are in the Hot Takes deck in the app. 90 more cards are in the Hot Takes deck.

The full this or that gamecapybara cards has Hot Takes for the picks people argue about, Would You Rather for the impossible choices and For Best Friends for your group chat crew. One phone, one tap per card.Get the app

• Hot Takes90 cards
• Would You Rather171 cards
• For Best Friends147 cards

This or that questions funny enough to start a fight

The funny round works best when the options are ridiculous but weirdly possible. Answer fast, then defend it like a lawyer.

• Sneeze every time someone says your name, or hiccup every time someone says "literally"?
• A pet goose that guards your front door, or a pet parrot that repeats your secrets to guests?
• Your voice is permanently autotuned, or every step you take squeaks like a dog toy?
• Your phone changes one random word per text to "banana," or your keyboard is stuck in caps lock forever?

More of these are in the Would You Rather deck in the app. 171 more cards are in the Would You Rather deck.

This or that questions for adults

Grown up life comes with its own little dilemmas. These are the kind you can ask at work drinks, at a dinner party or on a group trip, and every adult at the table will have a strong opinion.

• A dishwasher that empties itself, or a laundry basket that folds everything you throw in it?
• Split every group dinner evenly forever, or always pay exactly what you ordered down to the cent?
• Plan the whole group trip yourself, or show up and accept whatever the group chat decided?

More of these are in the For Best Friends deck in the app. 147 more cards are in the For Best Friends deck.

This or that questions for couples

Couples get the best version of this game, because you can guess each other's answers first. Read the question, both of you guess what the other will pick, then reveal. A wrong guess costs a point. For a longer couples round, try our list of this or that questions for couples.

• They pick the movie every single time, or you pick the restaurant every single time?
• A slow dance in the kitchen with no music, or a terrible duet in the car with the windows down?
• Whoever wakes up first makes coffee, or whoever goes to bed last locks up and turns off every light?

More of these are in the Would You Rather deck in the app. 171 more cards are in the Would You Rather deck.

This or that questions adults flirty (but clean)

Flirty doesn't have to mean awkward. These are light, a little bit cute, and perfect over text or across a table on a date.

• A love note hidden in your coat pocket, or a voice memo waiting for you at 7 AM?
• Holding hands under the table, or a wink from across a crowded room?
• Their hoodie that still smells like them, or a playlist they made just for you?

More of these are in the Hot Takes deck in the app. 90 more cards are in the Hot Takes deck.

When this or that works best

This or that is the game for in between moments, when a full board game is too much but silence is too awkward:

• Road trips: the driver answers, everyone else votes on whether the driver is wrong.
• First hangouts and new coworkers: the warm up round breaks the ice in about four questions.
• Date nights: the couples and flirty rounds, one at a time, across the table.
• Group chats: post one pick as a poll and watch people take it far too seriously.
• Waiting rooms and long lines: quiet enough to play at a whisper.

Nothing beats a pick that reveals something small, like who would rather plan everything or who just wants to show up. That's the part people remember after the game ends.

How to play this or that so it stays fun

A few small rules turn a list into a proper game:

• No "both." Ever. Picking both is the same as passing.
• Answer at the same time. Count to three and everyone says their pick out loud, so nobody copies.
• Ten seconds to defend. The minority has to explain itself. The majority gets to judge.
• Swap readers. Whoever got outvoted reads the next one.

Keep it moving. Five good picks with real arguments beat thirty rushed ones.

This page is just the warm up

What you just read is a sample, not the whole game. The full decks live in the capybara cards app: the Hot Takes deck has 90 cards, Would You Rather has 171 and For Best Friends has 147, with new cards added over time.

It works the way this game should work. Open a deck, tap once for the next card, read it out and pass the phone. Nobody has to think up the next question, nobody scrolls back through a list, and the shuffle means the same pick never comes up twice in a row. If tonight's round went well, that's where the rest of it is.